【明報專訊】My therapist friend Mika works in cancer recovery. She observes that among elderly mother patients, there is an overwhelming tendency of self-negligence that hinders healing. The moment these mothers step out of a therapy session, they reboot their operating systems as ''caregivers'', loading themselves with worries about their husbands and grown-up children while leaving themselves minimal thought and time. Of course, their deteriorating health worries their family in turn. The stagnation is tricky to resolve.